Wank Buddy Advice – Finding A New Buddy

Submitted by Anon in Wales

“I’ve been wanking with one of my best mates for the last five years, and it’s been great. But in a couple of months he’s moving to London for a new job and although he says he’ll be coming back every month or so for a weekend I think this will probably fade out. He’s my best mate, has been since I was 15. I’m gonna miss him a lot and he knows that, but I’m also gonna miss our wanking sessions. He’s even suggested that I look for a job in London too, and I’m seriously thinking about it.

I have a girlfriend, so does he (she’s moving with him), but I really want to find another mate to wank with and I don’t know where to start. We just fell into it, watching porn on the net and wanking with each other, it gradually got to the point where we were wanking each other occasionally too and it was the best.

I think it’s hard enough to find a good buddy you get on with, and then hard again getting it to that level, but in Wales it’s even harder. I’m not in a big city, so I’m stuck with the guys I know, the guys from the pub and the gym, and where I work. There’s no one I would want to wank with.

Can you help me out and tell me what I should do?”

You are right that it can be real difficult to find someone you have that connection with, a good mate who isn’t scared about wanking with you. I get messages on here all the time from guys who really want to find a wanking buddy and it can take years if you’re not as sociable as some other guys.

I wonder if you might be being a little too picky though, surely there must be at least a couple of guys at work or the gym you wouldn’t mind stroking cock with? Just remember, your existing buddy is your best mate too, so that might be clouding your opinion of other guys. You’re not going to have that kind of immediate confidence and comfort with a new mate, it comes over time.

I would suggest that you look again at the guys around you, and ignore the friendship part for now. Is there anyone at all that you have some things in common with and wouldn’t mind stroking dick with? When I think of the guys I know at my gym (it’s a small gym too, so probably not much bigger than the one you go to) there are at least three guys I can think of that I would love to jack-off with and haven’t really tried to build anything with yet.

As for moving, I would say that it’s a big step to take for a wank buddy. Sure, he’s your best mate, but what happens if you move to London and he loses his job a month later? Will he go back to Wales and leave you there in London? Would you be able to share an apartment with him and his girlfriend? You could end up just chasing him around the country because you’re relying on him for something plenty of other guys can offer.

I would suggest that you start building friendships with other guys, get out there more and meet new people, I think it would take you a few months to meet a whole new group and you’ll probably find that there are more guys you’d enjoy wanking with than you thought. Then it’s just a matter of getting comfortable enough with each other and creating that opportunity, something that’s pretty easily done when you spend a little time thinking about it.

Good luck, I’m sure you’ll find plenty of willing guys in the coming year and you’ll probably end up enjoying more experiences than you would have had your friend stuck around and been the only one you enjoy a cock stroke with.

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