Wank Buddy Advice – Is having a wank buddy considered cheating?

Submitted by Chris in Coventry, UK

“I’ve been wanking with a friend of mine for about a year, we’re good mates and hang out a lot, go to the gym together and work at the same company too. We only watch porn and drink, wanking out some loads together about a couple of times a month. But I started to wonder if this means I’m cheating on my girlfriend.

What do you think? Is this cheating and should I stop?”

This is actually a pretty tricky thing to talk about because it really all depends on the relationship you have and the things you both agree should be off-limits. Some girls are so jealous that they would freak out about their guy jacking off with another guy. Some would start to question sexuality and she might think you’re bi if she’s really ignorant about these things (no offense, it’s just that most people still don’t get that enjoying something like this doesn’t mean you want to suck a dick or do anything else with a guy).

But, there’s a different side to this too. I know a guy who’s married, and his wife is perfectly fine with him watching porn, and with him wanking with his friends. She’s apparently told him that she would rather he enjoy that with his buddies than be out there hooking up with some skank. At least she knows he’s not sticking his dick in anyone.

Another guy I know told his girlfriend about him jacking off with some of his friends and she was totally turned on by it and wanted to watch.

Both these guys are still with their partners and still enjoy stroking dick with their buddies too.

So, what do you think your girlfriend would think about this? Does she need to know about it? Would it make any difference at all to your relationship?

The way I see it – and this is just my opinion – stroking cock with other guys is not all about the sexual thing. Some guys just do it because it’s fun and they’re that close that they’re not embarrassed about these things. To a lot of guys it’s more about hanging out with a buddy and enjoying their favorite hobby than anything sexual between them.

I would maybe think about how far you want to go. I believe that if you want to swap hands with a guy and feel someone else’s cock then maybe you should be up-front about this with her and talk about it.

No one can tell you how to judge your relationship or the likely opinions of those you partner with, but I hope this response has at least given you some things to think about.

5 Replies to “Wank Buddy Advice – Is having a wank buddy considered cheating?”

    1. So you thing its okay if guys jack each other off? I’m not sure about that. I think i would be pissed if i found out my girlfriend was doing anything like that with her friends.

      1. I think it all depends on the relationship people have, and the unspoken agreements they make to each other. Most couples will automatically know what their partner would think about these things.

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